Marriage controls and consanguinity There are still strict controls in England and Wales on who may and may not marry. These are the controls as they stand at present. • People under 16 years of age may not marry. • If a person over 16 but under 18 wishes to marry, consent must be obtained from the parents or other lawful guardians or guardian. • No person who is already married to a living spouse can marry someone else; if they do so the second marriage is invalid. • No person who is going through a divorce may marry until the decree absolute has been granted. • The two people wishing to marry must be male and female respectively. (more…)
Second wedding Second weddings are very common with the rising divorce statistics in this country, and are developing an etiquette all of their own. Widows and widowers Of course if you have been married before and your spouse has died, you are quite free to get married in church. Generally a full white wedding with all the trimmings will not be appropriate if the bride has been married before, but may be totally appropriate if it is the groom who is the widower. If the bride is a widow she and the groom will probably share the cost of the wedding, although there is nothing to stop her parents making a contribution.
Where to marry? Until recently it has been very unusual for Anglican ministers to marry a couple where one of them is divorced and the divorced partner is still living, but there are moves afoot to change this. (more…)
Wedding Ideas In past times the rules over paying for weddings were very clearly laid out; the bride’s father met many of the costs, and the rest were covered by the groom. These days it is much less clear cut. Most couples contribute jointly towards the costs, just as they would towards any other event they were organising together, and often the groom’s family also help pay for the wedding or some part of it. Of course the whole issue of who pays for what will be something that you will need to talk about in some detail with both sets of parents, being realistic over what you can all afford. Here, for basic guidelines, are the expenses that are traditionally met by each side, although your own list may look very different! (more…)
Choosing a wedding ceremony One of the earliest questions to be settled is the kind of wedding that you want. There are numerous options open to you, and you have the chance to make this most important day live up to all your hopes and expectations for it! Make sure that you choose the type of wedding with which you feel most comfortable. If you have always wanted a large, formal wedding, then go for that option – on the other hand, if you cringe at the thought of all that drama, or if you would be happier with a non-religious ceremony, then don’t let anyone push you into a formal church wedding. The basic options for the type of ceremony are set out here; choose the one that fits your own preferences best, and then you can add your own details to it to personalise the day. (more…)
Informal wedding ceremony Informality can be brought into the traditional wedding service in many ways; choose the kind that you feel most comfortable with, and resist any conventions that you feel are inappropriate. The bride could wear a shorter dress, or one without a train, of less traditional design. She can get married in a suit, in trousers if she wishes, or in a dress that is coloured rather than white. The bridesmaids can wear less traditional clothes too – for instance tartan or striped cotton rather than pastel satin or net. The bride may choose not to have any attendants, or may choose a friend who will wear ordinary clothes. The bouquets could be made up of garden flowers or wild flowers. (more…)
The art of love During the 12th century one Andreas Capellanus (‘Andrew the Chaplain’) wrote a treatise in Latin called the Art of Loving. In it he laid down 31 rules of love; no-one is quite sure whether they were to be taken seriously or whether they were tongue-in-cheek! However, here they are. (more…)
Family Do I get on with my partner’s parents and family? Does my partner get on with my parents and family? Are there any areas of friction? if so, what can we do about them? Do We come from similar social backgrounds? If not, is this a problem? Or could it become one? Do we have similar attitudes to family get-togethers? Is either of us too dependent on our own family? How often will we expect to see our families after our marriage? How often will they expect to see us? Will I be tempted to put my family before my marriage? Are our family situations similar or different? (For instance, the number of children in the family, attitudes to money, etc.) If so, is this going to be a problem? (more…)
A difficult decision – high quality or low price of the cheap wedding ring set? By us you can definitely have both! You should definitely think twice before purchasing an inexpensive wedding ring because, in most cases, the quality of the ring won’t be especially high. Because the wedding ring will be worn every day, you should be prepared to spend the extra money to get a high-quality ring from gold or platinum. This is one purchase where you shouldn’t be looking to save money. The bottom line: don’t be cheap, and you will have a beautiful wedding ring that will last a lifetime. Otherwise it won’t be long until you will have to get a new ring. Many jewellers are quite hesitant to sell cheap wedding ring sets because they know that quality is important for a ring that will be worn forever. (more…)
Prepare the perfect surprise for your girlfriend with the gold engagement ring It can be difficult to plan a surprise, especially when you both live in the same place. You will therefore need a good excuse if you secretly wish to go shopping. Women can be real detectives when it comes to surprises. So organization, an excuse, and a plan are important. It’s important that you don’t come off as too suspicious while you are choosing an engagement ring of gold for your girlfriend. In case you wish to purchase the ring online, it’s not advisable to use a joint e-mail account. It might not even be a good idea to use the same computer because your girlfriend might be able to track your activities if she really wants to. So her diamond engagement ring will be no longer surprise.
Which gold engagement ring is the most fitting – wedding proposal The engagement ring is something special and differs from other rings. This ring is a symbol of your future lives together. Because you are surprising your beloved with a marriage proposal, the ring should be something special. So the answer will of course be “yes”!
First of all, you need to place great value on the material. If you choose gold, it should be at least 14-karat gold 585. Even better is 18-karat white or yellow gold 750. In some countries such India, anything less than 18 or 22-karat yellow gold is simply unacceptable.
Second, you must consider that many women value the beauty of precious stones such as diamonds. The engagement ring can be set with more than one brilliant. Of course, the gemstones chosen depend on your budget and her taste. Real diamonds are recommended. You should opt for the purest diamonds that you can afford. Other stones such as zirconia can be used. However, zirconia are more easily damaged than diamonds. (more…)