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Aug 11

Wedding Ideas – Thinking about Family, Money, Leisure and Sex

Family Do I get on with my partner’s parents and family? Does my partner get on with my parents and family? Are there any areas of friction? if so, what can we do about them? Do We come from similar social backgrounds? If not, is this a problem? Or could it become one? Do we have similar attitudes to family get-togethers? Is either of us too dependent on our own family? How often will we expect to see our families after our marriage? How often will they expect to see us? Will I be tempted to put my family before my marriage? Are our family situations similar or different? (For instance, the number of children in the family, attitudes to money, etc.) If so, is this going to be a problem? (more…)

Aug 10

Wedding Ideas – the Rules of Love

The art of love During the 12th century one Andreas Capellanus (‘Andrew the Chaplain’) wrote a treatise in Latin called the Art of Loving. In it he laid down 31 rules of love; no-one is quite sure whether they were to be taken seriously or whether they were tongue-in-cheek! However, here they are. (more…)

Aug 10

Save some money from the marriage and the wedding – ideas for wedding

Spending can be one of the biggest sources of contention within a marriage, and this can be especially true when things are very tight after an expensive wedding and honeymoon, often combined with the cost of setting up a new home as well. It’s important to sort out your priorities and expenditures early on, especially if you have used up all your savings on the wedding and house, to make sure that you don’t get into deep water and place an unnecessary strain on your marriage. (more…)

Aug 10

Timetables, plans, checklists and details – wedding organizer

Wedding organizer As well as keeping checklists of all the details of your wedding plans, you will need an overall timetable of what to do when, so that everything is planned in good time and nothing gets forgotten. Sort out all the big questions first – date and time, venue of service and reception – then move onto the smaller details once you have worked out the basic framework. (more…)

Aug 09

Wedding Ideas – Types of ceremony, Informality

Informal wedding ceremony Informality can be brought into the traditional wedding service in many ways; choose the kind that you feel most comfortable with, and resist any conventions that you feel are inappropriate. The bride could wear a shorter dress, or one without a train, of less traditional design. She can get married in a suit, in trousers if she wishes, or in a dress that is coloured rather than white. The bridesmaids can wear less traditional clothes too – for instance tartan or striped cotton rather than pastel satin or net. The bride may choose not to have any attendants, or may choose a friend who will wear ordinary clothes. The bouquets could be made up of garden flowers or wild flowers. (more…)

Aug 08

Wedding Ideas – Types of Ceremony

Choosing a wedding ceremony One of the earliest questions to be settled is the kind of wedding that you want. There are numerous options open to you, and you have the chance to make this most important day live up to all your hopes and expectations for it! Make sure that you choose the type of wedding with which you feel most comfortable. If you have always wanted a large, formal wedding, then go for that option – on the other hand, if you cringe at the thought of all that drama, or if you would be happier with a non-religious ceremony, then don’t let anyone push you into a formal church wedding. The basic options for the type of ceremony are set out here; choose the one that fits your own preferences best, and then you can add your own details to it to personalise the day. (more…)

Aug 08

The good food is essential at every wedding – wedding preparation

Wedding food Good food makes for a good reception, and if you provide your guests with something tasty as part of a special celebration they will certainly remember the day with affection! The food doesn’t have to be exotic and super-extravagant; a selection of well-chosen dishes with differing tastes and textures, served attractively, will give just the right impression however much – or little – you can afford to spend on the menu. (more…)

Aug 07

Wedding Ideas – Who Pays for What at the Wedding

Wedding Ideas In past times the rules over paying for weddings were very clearly laid out; the bride’s father met many of the costs, and the rest were covered by the groom. These days it is much less clear cut. Most couples contribute jointly towards the costs, just as they would towards any other event they were organising together, and often the groom’s family also help pay for the wedding or some part of it. Of course the whole issue of who pays for what will be something that you will need to talk about in some detail with both sets of parents, being realistic over what you can all afford. Here, for basic guidelines, are the expenses that are traditionally met by each side, although your own list may look very different! (more…)

Aug 06

Order of Service Reading Prayers Music and Bible readings – Wedding Preparation

Order of Service Reading Prayers Music and Bible readings – Wedding Preparation Choosing the music and readings is all part of personalizing your big day. Refer to Checklist 5 ‘Order of Service’ (more…)

Aug 06

Weeding ideas – second wedding

Second wedding Second weddings are very common with the rising divorce statistics in this country, and are developing an etiquette all of their own. Widows and widowers Of course if you have been married before and your spouse has died, you are quite free to get married in church. Generally a full white wedding with all the trimmings will not be appropriate if the bride has been married before, but may be totally appropriate if it is the groom who is the widower. If the bride is a widow she and the groom will probably share the cost of the wedding, although there is nothing to stop her parents making a contribution.

Where to marry? Until recently it has been very unusual for Anglican ministers to marry a couple where one of them is divorced and the divorced partner is still living, but there are moves afoot to change this. (more…)