Marrying Abroad in a Foreign City – Plan my Wedding If you fancy the romance of marrying in a foreign city, on a beach, or with a backdrop of mountains, why not opt for a wedding abroad? This will probably mean you have fewer guests, which may make it less expensive, depending on your travel costs, and you (more…)
Two Weeks to go Before the Wedding – Plan my Wedding Two weeks before the wedding, all the plans should be in place. However, it is a good idea to check arrangements and do the last- minute preparations.
Confirm with suppliers • Telephone all your suppliers to double-check arrangements. • Confirm transport arrangements for you and your guests. • Check with hotels or guest houses that all the accommodation you’ve requested is still booked. • If you are hiring clothes, confirm the time when you are picking them up and returning them. • If you are having a cake, establish who is picking it up, or if it’s being delivered and when. • Check if there is a cake stand and knife at the venue. If not, you can probably borrow one from the caterer. • Check with the florist to make sure your order is in hand, and finalise delivery arrangements. • Confirm with any entertainers or musicians their time of arrival, how long you are expecting them to perform, and any last- minute requirements they have. • Think through any suppliers’ bills you need to pay and either pay the supplier in advance if you completely trust them, or allocate someone to pay them on the day. You may need to write cheques for your best man or woman to hand over at the end of the evening, or give them plenty of cash. • Do a last-minute check of the guest list and confirm final numbers with caterers and the venue. Run through the table plan to check everyone is accounted for and any dietary requirements will be met and are marked on the table plan.
Meet the registrar Make sure you have an appointment with the registrar at least two weeks before the event. This gives you a chance to run through arrangements and they will also check they are happy with all the readings, vows and choice of music – remember they can’t be religious at all. Check that they are supplying flowers for the ceremony table, if it is the council offices, for example. Also ask them to supply water, in case your mouth dries out in the middle of the vows.
Book beauty treatments Don’t do anything radical to your appearance that you haven’t tried months before. I heard of someone who had their upper lip waxed four days before and came out in a terrible rash. However, the following are some treatments that should be booked close to the wedding date: Eyebrows – if you want to pluck them, shape them or dye them, this should be done one week before. Eyelashes – you may want to have them dyed to give your eyes greater emphasis in the photographs. Manicure – your fingers are photographed a lot on your wedding day so make sure they’re looking good.
The honeymoon preparations Prepare your clothes for your honeymoon, don’t forget swimwear, and if you need to wax anything, book appointments. You also need to sort out any outfits you need for going away on honeymoon or leaving the hotel the next morning. Make sure you have travellers’ cheques, currency, insurance, copies of reservations, tickets, travel arrangements, passports, visas, medical information about jabs, allergies, etc, any medication you need, and driving licences or other documentation such as diving qualifications.
Your attendants Buy and wrap any presents you are giving to the attendants. Hold a rehearsal either at the venue or at home, if possible with attendants or people giving readings or speeches. You can choose to give them presents then or in public at your wedding. Make a list of everyone you need to thank on the day. If you can’t hold a rehearsal, make sure all the attendants know what is expected of them. E-mail or post them the detailed running order. Make sure you’ve allocated someone to hand out buttonholes if you’ve ordered them. Decide if you are going to display presents and check with the venue if this is possible, then either arrange for someone to take them home, or for the venue to keep them safe.
Allocate people to take back any hire equipment – for example, suits, the cake stand and glasses. If your booze is on a sale or return basis, when do you have to return this to get your money back? Delegate any last-minute jobs to friends and family, so you have nothing to do except enjoy your ceremony!
Think through a way of making sure you know who gave you which presents, and allocate someone to write a list for you on the day. If you have a gift list with a shop, find out when presents will be delivered to make sure you are back from your honeymoon or at home. If someone is looking after the rings, make a time to meet with them to hand them over.
Practice Wear your shoes in to make sure they are comfortable on the day. Pack some plasters in case of blisters.
Practise any first dance you have chosen with your partner. Rehearse your speech, vows and readings in the mirror and to each other, if you don’t mind hearing them first. Try to record them. Try on your outfit and all the accessories to make sure you are totally comfortable with everything.
Transport Taxis Limousines or Carriage – Wedding Preparation When deciding on transport, you will need to take into account the style and theme of the wedding and the practicaI aspects such as distances, journey times and the time of year, especially if you plan to have open-topped transport. (more…)
Introduction and Organizing your wedding – useful information Congratulations on taking the first steps towards planning your perfect wedding day. The fact that same-sex couples can now make a legal commitment to each other akin to marriage is fantastic. And whether you want to celebrate your civil partnership with an (more…)
After the Wedding Formalities and Administrative Tasks – Plan my Wedding Now that the formalities have been conducted, all that remains are some administrative tasks such as informing relevant people and organizations of your change of name, thanking all the people who helped make the day run smoothly and ordering the wedding (more…)
The chief bridesmaid is usually a sister or dose friend of the bride. She liaises closely with the bride during the wedding preparations and helps with the clothing for any other bridesmaids, flower girl and pageboys. The Matron of Honour is usually the bride’s older married sister and is normally the only female attendant.
6 months □ Discuss plans with the bride, groom and best man □ Discuss dress or outfit with the bride, especially if being made, and ascertain who will pay – see ‘Clothes for the Matron of Honour’, and ‘Clothes for the Bridesmaids’
4 months □ Help the bride to choose her dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses
4 weeks □ Arrange or assist with arrangements for the hen party
1 week □ Attend the wedding rehearsal (church only) □ Attend any pre-wedding parties
1 day □ Collect any hired clothing and accessories On the day □ Ensure bouquets are ready for the bride, bridesmaids and flower girl □ Help the bride with her hair, make-up and dress □ Help the other bridesmaids, flower girl and pageboys get dressed and give them any final instructions on their duties □ Leave for the ceremony with the bride’s mother 10 minutes before the bride
At the church or civil ceremony □ Arrange the bride’s dress and veil □ Follow behind the bride and her father or giver-away up the aisle □ Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony □ Witness the signing of the register, if required □ Leave the church or civil ceremony on the left-hand side of the best man, directly behind the bride and groom □ Depart for the reception with the pageboys and any other bridesmaids, after the bride and groom
At the reception □ Stand in the receiving line between the groom and the best man to greet guests □ Help to display and record gifts received □ Have the first dance with the best man □ Help the bride to change into her going-away outfit □ Hand bouquet to bride when she is about to leave
After the wedding □ Return any hired clothing and accessories □ Write to the bride and groom to thank them for their gift □ Write to the bride’s parents to thank them for their hospitality
Choose Clothes for the Pageboys – Ideas for Wedding Traditional outfits for small boys include a miniature sailor’s uniform, a kilt and sporran, velvet pantaloons and waistcoat, with a full-sleeved shirt underneath, or a military uniform if the groom is an officer and is wearing uniform. Older boys could (more…)
How to use our Wedding Guide properly – more information You’ve taken the decision to have a civil partnership ceremony and now you want to get on with planning your big day. This guide helps you get started with wish lists, budget planners and the vital timetable. Once you start looking at venues and (more…)
Find a venue and Ideas of Budget – Plan my Wedding Once you have an idea of budget and how many people you want to invite, you can start looking for a venue to accommodate your 500 close friends! Your ideas might change once you have looked at a few, so keep an open mind. You may find you fall in love with somewhere that can hold only 50 people, or one that is so expensive you can afford to invite only 20. (more…)
Consider using a Wedding Planner – view more Details If you are frantically busy with your job, looking after the kids or an elderly relative, or just feel overwhelmed by the thought of planning a gay wedding, you can call in a wedding planner to take the strain. ‘Gay wedding planners’ is certainly one (more…)